Toxic people

To all of you who say this is the easy way out! BITE ME! This is by far one of the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. I have to watch what I eat and portion control. Not just words that we've all learned one day to explain a diet - but real portion control! 1 cup or 6-8ox of protein, 1/4 cup vegetable and fruit, make sure you get enough protein in each day - don't forget the dairy! Oh, yeah the starches too. We have to eat it all - but in moderation! Do I allow myself a "treat"? Sure I do, I have a bite size candy bar one or two times a week. I can't have soda - that's okay because it's not good for you anyways. It's been almost a year since I've had one anyways. But don't belittle me and say it is the easy way out, it's not, by any means! I just chose to get help to install a "tool" to HELP me through my weight loss, because everything else I've done in the past was only temporary fixes. I want to live until I'm 50 - the road I was traveling was leading to a huge cliff at the end that was going to bury me 6ft under. I have a beautiful, precious, and intelligent 9 year old daughter that I want to be around to see her graduate high school and college, get married (after she's 25), and see my grand kids (again when she's 25 or older). I have dreams, I want to see them all come true. This is going to help me (you hear me HELP me do the work to get it done!) So get off your high horse and until you walk in these shoes - stop slamming me (us) every chance you get! Just knock it off, if you don't have anything pleasant or nice to say to me then don't say it at all, I have better things than to be talked down to like that. To my WLS family - thanks for all the info and support, and experiences you all share with each of us at support (online or meetings) you are all great, and real people too. And for those "toxic friends" beware! As you all know there are "toxic family members too", those people are just NG (no good) for us and what we have to go through - the belittling and telling us we've made mistakes and look like crap - well here's to them "GO FLY A KITE, and LEAVE US ALONE"!